Navigating the Journey to Video Game Balance: Supporting Your Child Through Withdrawal and Recovery
As a parent, your concern for your child's well-being is only natural, especially when it comes to video game addiction. Much like substance use, people who have formed a video game habit can experience withdrawal that can be a challenging and overwhelming experience for someone who has been heavily dependent on video games. At the most intense point of my own addiction, I was playing games ~16-hours per day, and the transition out of that was jarring. I felt incredibly bored with everything that wasn’t a video game, I felt extremely anxious, and it was hard to think about anything besides the urge to play. But the good news is, I found my way out, and there is hope and a path to recovery that I can show you. Unlike other forms of addiction where complete abstinence is often the goal, recovery from video game addiction can involve finding a healthy balance that allows for enjoyable gaming in moderation. Withdrawal is a crucial part of the recovery journey, and it is essential to understand what to expect and how to support your child through this process.
Video Game Addiction and Withdrawal
Video game addiction is a complex issue that can manifest in different ways, such as excessive gaming, neglect of personal and social responsibilities, and physical and emotional symptoms when not gaming. The main reason that someone experiences withdrawal is that video games affect the reward systems of the brain, much like gambling or sex addiction. When someone’s brain is so used to having a high level of dopamine on a consistent basis, the experience of existing in real life feels mundane in comparison. It is essential to remember that not all gaming is problematic, and that the goal of recovery is not necessarily complete abstinence but finding a healthy balance.
The Withdrawal Process
Withdrawal from video game addiction can be a challenging experience for your child, as they may experience symptoms similar to substance abuse, such as irritability, restlessness, and mood swings. They may also feel down, worried, or just plain bored. It's important to recognize that these symptoms are a normal part of the recovery process and to provide support and encouragement during this time. In addition, because the goal isn’t to eliminate them completely, you can aim to reduce the amount of time spent playing and be empathetic during moments where your child is unable to play. You can say something like, “I know that this is a lot less fun than playing video games and you will get to play later. Let’s work together to find something that can keep you busy until then.” The severity and duration of these symptoms will vary from person to person, but with time and support, they will subside. Acknowledge your child's feelings and remind them that these symptoms are temporary and a sign of progress towards a healthier future.
Supporting Your Child During Recovery
Recovery from video game addiction takes time and effort, but it is possible. Your support is crucial in helping your child navigate this journey. Encourage them to find a healthy and balanced lifestyle that includes alternative activities to fill the time previously spent gaming. Remember that high energy or exciting activities are best; try to stay away from something like a coloring book, a crossword, or anything that takes long sustained focus at first. I always recommend something active like rock climbing or some kind of martial art. Set boundaries and limits around gaming, and communicate openly and empathetically with your child. Professional help may also be necessary and is a wise choice if you are concerned that your child may have an issue with their video game use. The key to success is finding a balance between gaming and other activities, rather than total abstinence.
Conclusion
Embracing the journey to video game sobriety and supporting your child through withdrawal and recovery is a process, but it is a process worth taking. Your love and support can make all the difference in helping your child find a healthier and more fulfilling life. Remember to take things one step at a time and to seek professional help if needed. You are not alone in this, and together, you can help your child find a healthy balance between gaming and other activities. Need more support? Check out my free resources below!
