Understanding Video Game Addiction in Children: How to Overcome It
As parents, we want nothing but the best for our children. But when it comes to video games, it can be hard to know where to draw the line. The truth is, video games can be incredibly fun and engaging, but for some people, that occasional gaming session turns into an all-consuming addiction. But why?
Brain Science and The Role of Dopamine
Dopamine is a chemical that is released by the brain as a reward when we complete something satisfying or helpful. When it comes to video games, they provide a quick and energy-efficient way to get a hit of dopamine. Complete a quest, get a rare item drop, or outplay your opponent? Dopamine. The more you play, the more dopamine gets released, and the more you want to play. In contrast, the laborious and less engaging tasks of everyday life can really pale in comparison. In the height of my addiction, going to the grocery store felt so boring that it was almost unbearable. It's a vicious cycle that's hard to break, and one that video game companies are intentionally using to make games that you will want to play.
Coping with IRL Challenges
Another reason video games can be so addictive is that they provide a way of dealing with feelings and challenges that arise IRL (In Real Life). Whether you're dealing with stress, anxiety, or just feeling down, video games offer a chance to set aside your problems and dive into a whole different world. That feeling of total absorption for which you’re no longer stuck in thought.
Connections and Identity
But it's not just about the game itself, it's also about the connections you make while playing, feelings of competence and success, and even sometimes an identity. Whether it's through online multiplayer or virtual communities, video games can provide a sense of belonging and social interaction that some people may not have in real life. Many people play because they’re skilled, and it feels good to have something in their life that they’re skillful at. Finally, someone can even have an identity or sense of community around playing games.
Conclusion
As parents, it's important to remember that video games can be a good thing too. They can improve hand-eye coordination, problem-solving skills, and even boost mood. The key is finding the balance and setting boundaries. If you find your child neglecting responsibilities or relationships because of excessive gaming, it may be time to have a conversation with them about setting limits. Encourage other activities and hobbies, and make sure to keep lines of communication open. Remember, video games can be a great way to have fun, but moderation is key. Need some help in encouraging moderation? Check out my FREE resource and parent support group below:
